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thanksgiving is not in october??

😔😭🤔 in canadian

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today, I've made a vanilla mug cake

it smells like a vanilla cake
it sounds like a vanilla cake
it looks like a vanilla cake
it touches like a vanilla cake

but it tastes like despair and I ate it full

what should I name this cake?

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Paradock 6 months ago • 7 views •

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Paradock 6 months ago (edited) • 22 views

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I can not give promises. I can not say "yeah I'll become a good moderator by tomorrow by doing XYZ". I want to maintain a community where the rules apply, where second chances are possible and better consequences for violations. Even if there will always be disagreements between people because we're all unique I should try to improve myself on this topic. I'm still learning about this topic. I don't want to walk away from this project because this community still matter to me. I don't want to abandon what this community built. But, I can keep doing things the exact same way. Maybe I need to take a break or something but this contradicts (I think) me walking away from here.

Don't forget: I genuinely do not know how to explain in a good way many of my thoughts.

Might extend to comments in case I get more thoughts

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Paradock 6 months ago • 7 views

holy crap, I have an headache... I can't just stop here

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Paradock 6 months ago • 13 views

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I will talk about the general moderation between mrmeems and other banned people.

I've seen complains that mrmeems keeps getting unbanned while other people aren't. Why MrMeems was given more chances compared to other banned people? The truth is simple: I believed he could change. At one point, I seemed to see that he was improving like there were moments when he showed better self-control, he apologized or tried to ajust his behaviors and like somewhat stopped using slurs as a whole for some time. That progress from him made me think that he was moving in a better direction. Maybe I seen his potential or maybe I hoped that that one more chance would be the one to fix him. But in the end, I misjudged everything. He relapses. I have no choice that by today I should not let my optimism for him to get better go away as his outcome is not going to change in the long term. I wish he could get better, maybe one day.

Why other banned people didn't get the mrmeems treatment? I will not say other names for privacy even if you may already know them. They kept ban-bypassing repeatedly, acted like the rules didn't apply of them, showed no attempt at improvement or remorse and I've seen a message from one of them which can be generalized as "oh its very easy to ban someone so i do it, it's just one click in the admin panel". There's a difference between someone who keep ban-bypassing and someone who shown a little bit of effort at becoming better. I thought he could get better.

Ok, what about general moderation?

I might be more lenient because personally, I don't like being authoritarian or controlling, I don't like the feeling of handling out punishments, I can also relate to people who mess up and want another chance and deep down I might be like those people who get banned from platforms. Moderation isn't something I am best at and that's my fault, my responsibility. I sometimes default to forgiveness even when being severe could be the best solution.

I genuinely do not know how to explain in a good way many of my thoughts so if it looks like I did some logical fallacies, I need to correct them to explain my thoughts correctly. Just saying this because I think it is important to argue in a way that doesn't make us mad.

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Paradock 6 months ago • 17 views

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I've seen all the interactions you've sent about slurs and banning them and about bad moderation. In this section I will talk about the moderation of slurs. I will use pronoun "I" instead of "we" to try to simplify things in those posts.

For me, I find moderating not easy as moderation threat of violence or suicidal thoughts. I've seen in real life and even on this platform itself that there is no universally agreed-upon definition of what counts as a slur. For some people some slurs are considered as regular benign insults and for some they're extremely offensive and must be never said by anyone. Unlike explicit threats such as "I find you and harm you", slurs exists in some kind of gray area. There is no official clear list of forbidden terms. The definition of a slur varies between peoples and communities and some words that were offensive may lose their impact over time and some will still be taboo. I understand that. Yet, this doesn't help me at moderating.

I find that words can be hurtful in one context and harmless in another which makes moderation harder. What happens if peoples/groups targeted by a slur reclaims it among themselves and that without malice? What happens if a slur is used in an artistic or historical context such as a quote, a song lyric, a reenactment, or an educational discussion? What happens to slurs who lose their original hate power such as "queer", "bitch", "slut", "cunt", "lady", "nerd", "geek", "pervert", "brat", "jew" and more? Should those be banned too or they're fine? Each insult words seen in an interaction must somehow distinguish between insults meant to harm, reclaimed use, satire, quoting/discussing about those words, artistic or historical references which is extremely hard with a simple blacklist.

There are some slurs who are heavily reappropriated, some are partially reappropriated, some have lost most of their offensive impact, while others remain socially unacceptable. So what happens when I check a post and think should it count as hate or it is okay, what should I answer? For me there's no simple answer.

But I have no choice, I have to answer multiple questions about this sensitive subject such as about what to put in the banned list? I'm I responsible for respecting reappropriation of these words? Should a word be globally banned or only when used as hate speech? What reason should be the word banned for? No matter what, someone will disagree. Bans can feel arbitrary or unfair especially when there's no objective standard to follow. I don't want to over-moderate as it might censor even more discussions, art, or even marginalized voices... If I under-moderate, it might hurt people or communities and if I use an automatic filter (although I tried) it cannot reliably interpret context, intent or identity. It's borderline a political question.

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Paradock 6 months ago (edited) • 12 views

a response will be sent later the day, i'm occupied right now

but i don't think i can just say i'm sorry this time and end it here, i'll probably say something that might start a drama but at least it's transparency

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Paradock 6 months ago • 13 views

my online behavior on darflen is straight up not what I would do in real life 😊

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Paradock 6 months ago • 12 views

we're on the school grind 💪

weekends? more like buhhh???

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